The Scorpion and the Frog
A scorpion and a frog meet on the bank of a stream and the
scorpion asks the frog to carry him across on its back. The
frog asks, “How do I know you won’t sting me?” The scorpion
says, “Because if I do, I will die too.”
The frog is satisfied, and they set out, but in midstream,
the scorpion stings the frog. The frog feels the onset of
paralysis and starts to sink, knowing they both will drown,
but has just enough time to gasp “Why?”
Replies the scorpion: “It’s my nature…”
As I habitually scrolled through my Twitter timeline this morning, I came across a twitpic of the Aesop’s Fable you just read. I read it, felt some kind of way, and then moved on. I really didn’t think much of it because I see all types of things on Twitter; but as the day went on, I found myself thinking about this post. I went back, read it again, and still didn’t feel any better.
I eventually realized that these uneasy feelings were more about who posted it, rather than what the actual Fable depicted. It was posted by a man, who is notorious for being a womanizer and THAT, if nothing else was enough to piss me off! But no, seriously, the nerve of this man who is publicly disrespectful to women and proud of it, to sarcastically post this to his page! He clearly never plans to change his ways and I refuse to completely call him out; it will only give him more attention and he already gets enough of that!
I am not an excuse maker, nor am I a woman who has ever knowingly been cheated on, so this “rant” is not personal. I’m not here to bash men or continually complain about certain behavior, I’m here to talk about accountability for our actions. I believe that it’s much easier for this man in particular, to make excuses and say that it’s in his nature to be unfaithful than to admit he is too afraid or too much of a coward to trust himself enough to commit to one woman. If you have an understanding with the person you are dating, the person that you want to build something with, why cheat? Don’t enter the relationship to begin with! Don’t get married, don’t act as if you are committed, just keep it casual, open and clear!
DISCLAIMER: I am not saying that single people should act as if they are married; in fact I am completely against it!
Ok, enough about cheating, because as I stated earlier, that is not the point of this post. I am accountable for my actions. I, Courtney Nicole, am the only person who makes decisions for ME; I cannot blame my behavior on my father, mother, cousins, friends or anyone! Although their previous actions or behaviors may have some influence, I ultimately am in full control of myself.
I have recently discovered some things about myself that I plan to actively work on; my behavior and the decisions I make are directly affecting my interaction with others. I am giving people the wrong impression of who I am. I gotta change that! ASAP!
I just want people in general to stand behind the choices they make and I plan to do the same! I know that you can’t always be “right” in every situation. However, when you are out right incorrect and continue this behavior just because you feel like it, its rude, inconsiderate and disrespectful to the people around you. I am not perfect; I make mistakes often. The difference is in the recovery.
Don’t make excuses, don’t justify poor behavior; stand up, acknowledge your actions and become better. But, if this isn’t for you, I completely understand. I don’t need to make excuses for my behavior… Do you?
Courtney Nicole is a 28 year old, single girl, blogger and Love & Relationships columnist. With her personal blog Table for One (http://thistable4one.blogspot.com) being so open and honest, Courtney Nicole has been building an audience of followers that can truly relate to the experiences she writes about. Courtney Nicole is all about sharing her story and is unashamed of her experiences or the feelings that come as a result of them. With over 50 published posts to her site and several features on others, Courtney Nicole sees no signs of letting up! Writing about everything from her loathing “Good Morning” text messages to her being content in her single life, Courtney Nicole is completely relatable, open and honest. Her life is moving full speed ahead and she’s basking in it all!
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